“Oh Shweta !!! why don’t you go on your own? Why don’t you join interior designer course in any local institute? I want my wife to be impressive and center of attraction” Nirav said in anger.
“But I am your wife and why do you want me to show others? I do not feel joining anything or work for atleast two years. I want to enjoy marriage life” Shweta said calmly.
To this, Nirav got more angry. This was usual and almost routine for both of them. Shweta always tried to convince Nirav that she is enjoying at home but Nirav wanted her wife to be like other girls, as he was working with in his office. Its been six months only, they got married. Nirav did not have any choice but to follow his parents’ selection – Shweta, because he did not find anything wrong in her after meeting her. Shweta was well educated, moderately beautiful and charming. Shweta conveyed indirectly in the first meeting itself about her interest in being at home or working from home. But Nirav thought that he will be able to convince her to work, when they both will be alone in US.
She will feel bored and so she will work – he thought silently.
But, nothing like that happened with Shweta. She was happy while being at home for 8-9 hours and while decorating new home and preparing delicious dishes for Nirav. She was able to roam around alone in this unknown country, confidently. She received couple of opportunities for work from Nirav’s friends but she denied. And to this, Nirav was upset. He wanted to show the world that his wife was active. She was not sitting at home because he thought that being at home means you are not doing anything and so you are not worth of anything. Initially, Shweta kept telling him that she will take up some work after sometime. But the way Nirav was pushing her to be active, she got stubborn about being at home. Although she never preferred fighting, the way Nirav was doing, she never said yes too, to take up any work. And within 6 months of togetherness, they felt like it was merely impossible for both of them to be under one roof.
Today, football world cup’s final match was there and so Nirav took half leave from work and reached home early to enjoy the match. Totally unaware about this, Shweta got excited when she saw Nirav at home so early. She started talking about her plan to go out as she had not gone out since last couple of days. And as she started speaking, Nirav lost his control. Dialogue fighting started again and as usual Shweta tried to be calm but Nirav was in no mood to cool down. He started speaking anything about her character, about her inactiveness, about her parents, about her growth and so on…..
This was unbearable to Shweta. Tears rolled out from her eyes. She took car keys and left the home. To this even, Nirav did not react at all and started enjoying football match. After half an hour or so, he received a call from Shweta’s cell. He smiled thinking “call for forgiveness, haan”. But there was some strange voice on call, asking him to reach to Michigan Avenue as his wife had met with an accident. Nirav ran out like anything. On the way, he received another call to reach to hospital and he followed. When he reached to hospital, doctors informed him that Shweta had met with a critical accident and as of now she was in coma. They were not sure, when she will be able to get back to normal life.
Nirav felt darkness in front of him. He felt like falling down. He balanced himself somehow. For the first time in his life, he started crying like anything. He regretted. If he would have not said those words to her, she would have never gone out and this accident would have never occur. At heart, he loved Shweta very much. He was happy the way she was looking after him, the house and herself too. For a small thing, he kept her pushing and today he was seeing the result. Tears were of no use and nothing he could do anymore.
So friends, life is like that. You never know when it will end. Don’t try to control your parents, your partner, your kids or your co-workers. You might right in some or the other way but they too live their own life. We, human being, always wants our loved ones to behave the way we expect. And that is how we lose them. That’s the reality of life. For any relationship, freedom and respect is required at some level. Love is not about expecting, its about accepting the person, as he/she is. Realize the truth on time or you might regret like Nirav. If you are in love with someone, the most important thing is to enjoy togetherness rather than molding each other as we expect them to be. Love does not work that way.
I can remember that famous quote from Leo Tolstoy –
When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.
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